Not unlike most human beings, we seem to have to hit ‘rock bottom’ for us to finally realise that unhealthy, pervasive patterns in our lives have to stop. If it weren’t for the fact that we feel that we are flailing in the wind and the subsequent despairing that follows. We would have taken stock a lot sooner.
My psychotherapy in Hertfordshire can help you to decipher what your individual needs are rather than relying on others to decipher them for you.
Collective/familial ideals may be holding us back from being authentic in our endeavours to live a purposeful and decerning lifestyle. It may not have occurred to you that there are other options. Habitual ways of behaving become entrenched and out of sight. That is, you may not always be aware of what and how you are actually feeling. Due to being buried under the weight of daily obligations and responsibilities.
Family expectations and external factors may have a say in how you live your life. What needs to be understood is that we are all destined to evolve over time. Suppressed aspirations and unmet needs tend to accumulate over the years that can result in low mood and heightened general anxieties. Lowered expectations, of ourselves or others, can be totally depleting. In can also put the brakes on creativity. Creativity and thinking outside of familial expectations can be invigorating and may invite us to become someone we couldn’t ever imagine being possible.
My integrative psychotherapy in Hertfordshire aspires to helping people achieve individual freedom, self-expression and ultimately personal growth. One of the primary indicators of co-dependency with all of its vagaries that inevitably lead to unhappiness is a pervading feeling of discontent. It also creates disappointment. That the other person is not coming up with their ‘end of the bargain’. Do you ever ask yourself “why am I not getting my needs met? I’m over-extending myself so why not?” This question that you may be asking yourself is one of many questions that I can help you to answer.
My maternal Irish grandmother used to say, “get it yourself or go without”. I’ve often pondered on what she actually meant by this. Outside of her 40 decades long marriage and 7 children down the line. I beggared a guess that she wanted more for herself. In spite of the fact that she was of a certain generation when you ‘made your bed and had to lie on it’.
There has been a sharp trajectory where modern society now portends to individuality and getting our needs met borne out of discovering our authentic natures. I can help to facilitate this in our therapy sessions together.
Contact me today at Penny Glazebrook Counselling and Psychotherapy, if you feel that you deserve more out of your life and want to lead a more fulfilling existence!
